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The Wisest Things Anyone Ever Said To Me

Lauren Phillips-Freeman
6 min readMay 29, 2023

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Every so often, in among all the inconsequential noise and inane babble of everyday life, someone will say something so profoundly impactful that it will alter you as a person. Something that changes your outlook on life, that you will henceforth carry around within yourself like a treasured trinket. These pearls of wisdom are often uttered in times of hardship and trauma. In my case, all five were said to me in the aftermath of breakups. It stands to reason, these being periods of reflection and re-evaluation, when questions are pondered and answers sought. They have proved invaluable to me in the years since, and I hope that in sharing them, they can be useful to other people too.

5) ‘The strong part was you.’

This was said to me by my good friend, Jess, back in my second year of university. My relationship of almost four years had come to a horribly messy end and I was left reeling. I professed my confusion during one of our many phone conversations, saying, ‘I thought we had such a strong relationship.’ With no hesitation at all, Jess replied, ‘That’s because the strong part was you.’ That was the moment I realised that our perception of our relationships is inherently dependent on our personalities. Me being as determined and as self-assured as I was, I had wrongfully assumed our relationship was rock-solid. I was perfectly secure, but we were…

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Lauren Phillips-Freeman

Lauren Phillips-Freeman is a language teacher and writer with a love of words in all their forms. She uses writing to help her process her own tangled emotions.